Anger is a normal and often healthy emotion that we all feel from time to time. However, when one’s anger becomes difficult or even impossible to control it can have a negative impact on a person’s life. Difficulty controlling anger can lead to difficulties in all aspects of life including relationships, family, and in the workplace. There are many myths that many people believe regarding anger and here are a few:
Myth: I shouldn’t “hold in” my anger. It’s healthy to vent and let it out.
Fact: While it’s true that suppressing and ignoring anger is unhealthy, venting is no better. Anger is not something you have to “let out” in an aggressive way. Outbursts and tirades in fact, only fuel the fire and reinforce your anger problem.
Myth: Anger, aggression, and intimidation help me earn respect and get what I want.
Fact: Respect doesn’t come from bullying others. People may be afraid of you, but they won’t respect you if you can’t control yourself or handle opposing viewpoints. Others will be more willing to listen to you and accommodate your needs if you communicate in a respectful way.
Myth: I can’t help myself. Anger isn’t something you can control.
Fact: You can’t always control the situation you’re in or how it makes you feel, but you can control how you express your anger. And you can express your anger without being verbally or physically abusive. Even if someone is pushing your buttons, you always have a choice about how to respond.
NorthPoint can help get your anger under control by helping you understand your anger and how it effects those around you, as well as developing skills to prevent aggressive outbursts before they happen. *Adapted from www.helpguide.org