Betrayal Spouse/Partner Care (Partner Relational Trauma)
We understand trauma betrayal wounds – the pain, confusion, anger, disbelief, distress, hurt, insecurity, fear, uncertainty, anxiety, as well as the loss of relational safety and stabilization.
We believe the behavior of your partner’s betrayal is not the result of anything you did or did not do. Never the less, you have been impacted. These types of trauma betrayal wounds run deep and wide and when left untreated, the betrayed partner often carries with them emotional roller-coaster states throughout life. Omar Minwalla, Psy.D., psychologist and clinical sexologist writes:
“Partners actually often experience clinically significant sex addiction-induced trauma (SAI-Trauma), which is the specific type of trauma and traumatic symptom clusters that result from the direct impact of the sex addiction and the associated chronic patterns of sexual acting out, relational perpetration, emotional abuse, deception, betrayal, psychological manipulation and compartmentalization. The clinical complexities and the degree and extent of psychological destabilization, ego fragmentation, relational and social ruptures and post-traumatic symptoms seen among partners are profound.”
Trauma Symptoms and Effects
Although the symptoms experienced following an emotionally traumatic event may vary from person to person, many experience the following symptoms:
- Intrusive Images
- Panic Attacks
- Over eating
- Health problems
- Inability to eat
- Mood swings
- Chronic fatigue
- Immune/Endocrine problems
Our recovery approach utilizes a Multidimensional Partner Model. From this perspective, we do not see you as a "co-dependent" but rather, as someone who has experienced significant trauma betrayal wounds in response to your partner’s behavior.
We will gently guide you through creating a space where you can voice your sorrow and pain as you come to acknowledge the reality of what has happened to your relationship. Recovery will help you explore insights and healing strategies to help you regain a healthy sense of you. Stephanie Carnes PhD., author and educator regarding sexual addiction/partner issues states:
“We want to reassure you that by giving yourself the gift of your own recovery, you will begin to see hope again. Eventually you can create a peaceful, healthier you.”
By utilizing a therapeutic approach, partners of sex addicts are guided step-by-step through a personal healing recovery using specific tasks and exercises created by three experienced sex addition experts-Stephanie Carnes, PhD, Maria A. Lee, LMFT, and Anthony D. Rodriguez, LCSW. Together, they have developed eight essential healing steps towards recovery.
The Eight Healing Steps:
- The Trauma of Discovery
- Manage the Crisis
- How to Deal with the Emotional Aftershock
- The Nature of Sex Addiction
- How to Communicate Your Feelings
- Make Empowered Choices
- Reclaim Your Sexuality
- Choose Your Next Steps
If you have been impacted by a partner betrayal, healing the wounds begins by taking the first step by getting help. Remember, you are brave and courageous. You can heal. It’s not your fault.